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My Mother Told Me

July 2011

The work presented in the interim MAA exhibition, UponOccasion, consisted of large-scale hand-written text with a small photograph in the center of the text and a pillow on the floor. The narrative is personal, and relies on memories. Interspersed throughout the story is a contemporary commentary.

Process
Process
My Mother Told Me – installation view
My Mother Told Me – installation view
My Mother Told Me, 2011
My Mother Told Me, 2011
My Mother Told Me - detail
My Mother Told Me – detail
Joyce, Rosie, "dolly", and Liz having a picnic in the backyard.
Joyce, Rosie, “dolly”, and Liz having a picnic in the backyard.

Text:

When I was being born, my mother says (whose second name was stupid, apparently), she was in labour for three days (eventually they took me out with forceps). While in the labour room at the hospital a black woman was brought in and put in the bed beside her. My mother, a newish immigrant (called damned DPs, I heard), tells me she had never been so close to a black person before (guess that depends where you come from). She felt afraid (of what?). She was suddenly feeling unsure of herself.  How do I talk to her, she thought. She had no idea how she should relate to this woman (like she’s not a person). She tells me, she felt afraid because she didn’t know how to act or what to say (except that’s never been a problem before). No words passed between them. My mother lay there passing the time with contractions. When I was six, my mother says, she was browsing in the downtown hardware store looking at dolls (they sold toys there in those days). She noticed a single black doll (I didn’t notice a lot of blacks in our town, but I recall the Chinese boarders that lived in our bedrooms after the divorce – I thought it was strange how you could see their fallen hairs on the pillows). She decided that she would buy it for me. She thought, she tells me, that if I played with a black doll that I would never have to feel afraid of them the way she had been.